The Hows & Whys of Feeling (Not Fixing!) Your Emotions with Jay Fields

Bite-Sized Balance Podcast with Wendy McCallum

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Wendy talks with Jay Fields, an educator, coach, and author who has taught the principles of embodied social and emotional intelligence to individuals and organizations for twenty years.

If you’ve ever wondered how to get better at sitting with your emotions, instead of drinking, eating, or scrolling to escape them, Jay’s got the practical three-step solution.

Wendy and Jay discuss the importance of feeling your emotions instead of “fixing” them, and how learning to do this using Jay’s approach allows us to respond instead of react, which in turn leads to deeper, more meaningful connections and personal relationships.

Topics include how people-pleasing arises from a common childhood blueprint (“never make anyone else feel uncomfortable”); how trying to “fix” an emotion instead feeling and accepting it can lead to overwhelm and burnout; the power of the words “of course” when it comes to regulating your nervous system and connecting with yourself; how felt sense increases empathy, compassion and intuition, and how “solving” emotions causes us to abandon ourselves.

More about Jay at: https://jay-fields.com/yours-truly

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The Hows & Whys of Feeling (Not Fixing!) Your Emotions with Jay Fields

Bite-Sized Balance Podcast with Wendy McCallum

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MP3•एपिसोड होम

Wendy talks with Jay Fields, an educator, coach, and author who has taught the principles of embodied social and emotional intelligence to individuals and organizations for twenty years.

If you’ve ever wondered how to get better at sitting with your emotions, instead of drinking, eating, or scrolling to escape them, Jay’s got the practical three-step solution.

More about Jay at: https://jay-fields.com/yours-truly

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#Fitness #Alternative Health #Wendy McCallum #Balance Coach #Balance #Burnoutprevention #Coaching #Personalgrowth #Wellness #Women #Mental Health #Health and Well-Being

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