Beyond Vanilla The Intersection of Polyamory and Kink with Maeve McBride

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Ever wondered what happens when kink and non-monogamy collide with trauma healing? In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Maeve McBride, a kink and ENM educator, erotic coach, and the Executive Director of Kinkfest 2025, to talk about how these worlds intersect—and it’s not just about the fun stuff (though there’s plenty of that too).

Maeve takes us on a journey, from supporting polyamorous families through childbirth to becoming a powerhouse in the kink community. We dig into how kink can actually be a tool for healing trauma and building emotional resilience by providing a structured, consent-driven space for exploration.

Here’s what we get into:

• How kink practices can build trust and create safe spaces for trauma survivors
• The importance of clear communication and consent in both kink and non-monogamous relationships
• Practical tools for managing triggers and building emotional resilience
• The healing power of choosing your own challenges in controlled environments
• How herbal remedies can enhance intimacy and pleasure (yes, herbs have a place in the bedroom!)

And we get into all things Kinkfest, the largest kink convention in the world, and how it creates a judgement-free zone for self-expression and play. Maeve’s ability to mix nurturing mom energy with badass kink educator vibes makes her perspective refreshing and super accessible for those new to the scene.

Meet Maeve McBride:

Maeve is not your average kink educator. She’s a clinical sexological herbalist and trauma-informed coach who blends her deep knowledge of kink, non-monogamy, and plant medicine into her work. Maeve’s personal healing journey from sexual trauma gives her a compassionate, real-world approach to helping others on their path.
www.maevemcbride.com
https://fetlife.com/users/13527208

Whether you’re just dipping your toes into kink, navigating polyamory, or curious about how herbs can spice up your love life, this episode is packed with practical takeaways and new ways to think about consent, communication, and healing.

Join us for a mind opening chat that pushes the boundaries of what healing, relationships, and self-expression can look like. You'll walk away with fresh tools and a whole new perspective on creating safe, consensual spaces in your life.

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अध्यायों

1. Non-Monogamous Relationships and Sexual Empowerment (00:00:00)

2. Navigating Emotional Triggers in Relationships (00:12:16)

3. Healing Through Ethical Non-Monogamy and Kink (00:22:07)

4. Exploring Consent and Kink in Relationships (00:28:27)

5. Exploring Kink and Non-Monogamy (00:34:45)

6. Exploring Kink Fest and Healing Resources (00:48:46)

7. Exploring Kink and Rope Suspension (01:01:15)