When IUI Becomes IVF: Navigating Fertility Treatment Transitions as a Single Mom by Choice

Motherhood Reimagined Podcast

In this powerful comeback episode for Season 2, Kelly opens up about her journey to becoming a single mother by choice. Currently nine months pregnant and due April 15th, Kelly shares her evolution from envisioning a traditional family life to embracing single motherhood. Her story encompasses the challenges of failed fertility treatments, the emotional decision to pursue IVF during COVID-19, and the personal growth that came with choosing an unconventional path to motherhood.

Detailed Timeline of Kelly's Journey:

• Age 33 (2018): Breakup with significant boyfriend led to considering "Plan B"
• Early 2019: First doctor's appointment for fertility clinic referral
• 2019-2020: Underwent 5 unsuccessful IUI attempts
• Late 2020: Made the emotional decision to transition to IVF
• January 2021: Began IVF preparations and financial planning
• Summer 2022: Successful pregnancy achieved

Key Topics Explored:

1. The Decision-Making Process

   • Initial hesitation and consideration of dating
   • Moment of realization about single motherhood
   • Processing the shift from traditional family expectations

2. Fertility Treatment Experience

   • Detailed account of IUI attempts and challenges
   • Emotional impact of failed treatments
   • Financial and practical considerations
   • Navigating treatment during the pandemic

3. Personal Growth & Relationships

   • Managing family dynamics
   • Dealing with sister's concurrent pregnancy
   • Setting boundaries as a people pleaser
   • Building support systems

4. Practical Insights

   • Choosing and working with fertility clinics
   • Sperm donor selection process
   • Financial planning and decision-making
   • Emotional coping strategies

Notable Quotes:

• "I had not thought that I would have to go to IVF, so it was a really big step."
• "As a people pleaser myself, I found that very challenging... I think you have to just really trust your gut and give yourself the space if you need."

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