Season 4 Episode 11: Human Resources Policy & Domestic Violence: Creating A Domestic Violence-Informed Organization

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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Host Francesca Amiker sits down with directors Joe and Anthony Russo, producer Angela Russo-Otstot, stars Millie Bobby Brown and Chris Pratt, and more to uncover how family was the key to building the emotional core of The Electric State . From the Russos’ own experiences growing up in a large Italian family to the film’s central relationship between Michelle and her robot brother Kid Cosmo, family relationships both on and off of the set were the key to bringing The Electric State to life. Listen to more from Netflix Podcasts . State Secrets: Inside the Making of The Electric State is produced by Netflix and Treefort Media.…

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Domestic violence represent 27% of workplace violent events
1 in 5 victims take time off from work due to abuse
20% of victims of domestic abuse had taken off month or more in prior year
56% arrived late at least 5x/month
53% missed at least 3 days of work/month
65% of companies do not have domestic violence policy (SHRM)

These statistics only represent a fraction of the picture of how domestic violence perpetrators impact their partner's employment, but also how they impact employers and the overall workplace environment. In addition to the impact on the survivor's employment (poor performance, lateness, absenteeism, lost of income, lost of career advancement), employers face worker attrition, performance related loses and even liability.
In this podcast, David and Ruth discuss a range of issues associated with domestic violence perpetrator behavior and the workplace. Their discussion covers:

The importance of consistent domestic violence-informed culture (inside and out) especially if your organization's work touches on families
Different ways perpetrators harm a partner's employment including abuse at work, interfering with their ability to work and hindering career advancement
Different strategies organization can engage in to make their human resource policy more informed including using the Safe & Together Institute Ally Guide as resource

Check out these related episodes
Season 4 Episode 4: Being abused by a partner while advocating for others
Season 4 Episode 2: Coming “Out” As A Survivor in a Professional Setting: A Practitioner’s Journey
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Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now!

Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real

Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence."
Visit the Safe & Together Institute website
Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses
Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events

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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

Season 4 Episode 11: Human Resources Policy & Domestic Violence: Creating A Domestic Violence-Informed Organization

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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Domestic violence represent 27% of workplace violent events
1 in 5 victims take time off from work due to abuse
20% of victims of domestic abuse had taken off month or more in prior year
56% arrived late at least 5x/month
53% missed at least 3 days of work/month
65% of companies do not have domestic violence policy (SHRM)

The importance of consistent domestic violence-informed culture (inside and out) especially if your organization's work touches on families
Different ways perpetrators harm a partner's employment including abuse at work, interfering with their ability to work and hindering career advancement
Different strategies organization can engage in to make their human resource policy more informed including using the Safe & Together Institute Ally Guide as resource

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Season 6 Episode 4: The Paradox of Proximity: Understanding Domestic Abuse in Rural and Remote Communities 1:16:48

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Send us a text In this episode, David and Ruth speak with Dr. Annie Donaldson about her groundbreaking research examining domestic abuse in Scotland's rural, remote and island communities. Dr. Donaldson, an honorary research fellow at the University of Strathclyde and longtime expert in gender-based violence, shares insights from interviews with survivors and professionals about the unique dynamics of domestic abuse in small, interconnected communities. Key topics include: The "paradox of proximity" - how physical isolation combines with close social connections to create unique challenges for survivors in rural areas How community connections can be both supportive and entrapping for survivors experiencing domestic abuse How perpetrators exploit small community dynamics and relationships to maintain control The incredible protective efforts of survivors, including maintaining children's routines and wellbeing despite multiple forced moves The impact of the Safe & Together Model in helping professionals challenge victim-blaming attitudes and better support survivors Dr. Donaldson discusses how traditional social work approaches focused solely on "problem-solving" often miss the emotional realities and strengths of survivors including: Validating and building on survivors' existing protective efforts Recognizing how historical distrust of authorities impacts help-seeking Using technology and remote options to increase accessibility This episode provides vital insights for any professional working with survivors in rural, remote or close-knit communities while highlighting the universal dynamics of entrapment that transcend geography. Resources: Safe & Together Family & Friends Ally Guide Dr. Annie Donaldson's research blog on rural domestic abuse The story of Glasgow’s Magdalene Institution by Dr. Anni Donaldson Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 6 Episode 3: Rethinking Gender-Based Violence Prevention: A Call to Action with Jess Hill and Michael Salter 1:07:04

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Send us a text "Single mothers are essentially the unofficial reserve army of prevention agents in this country and around the world." - Jess Hill In this episode, David and Ruth speak with Australian experts Jess Hill and Professor Michael Salter about their groundbreaking paper challenging current approaches to preventing gender-based violence. With Australia's commitment to end gender-based violence within a generation, yet concerning increases in sexual violence and domestic homicides, this timely discussion explores why traditional prevention strategies focused on changing social norms and attitudes have fallen short. Key points discussed include: The limitations of measuring prevention success through attitude surveys rather than actual reductions in violence Why structural interventions and accountability are essential alongside education efforts The need to focus resources on high-risk scenarios and populations, particularly traumatized youth How systems often fail to provide practical help when survivors, especially young people, disclose abuse The importance of shifting from "calling out" to "calling in" approaches when addressing harmful behaviors Why prevention efforts must acknowledge the reality that most people have been impacted by violence rather than assuming a "clean slate" Related episodes: Season 2 Episode 12: How Coercive Control Harms Child Safety & Wellbeing: An Interview With Jess Hill Additional Resources: See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Abuse by Jess Hill Childlight Research Centre - University of New South Wales Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 6 Episode 2: Coercive Control and Children 44:33

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Send us a text In this episode, David and Ruth explore why coercive control must be at the center of how we understand the impact of domestic abuse on children. Moving beyond just focusing on physical violence or whether children "witnessed" abuse, they discuss how perpetrators' patterns of behavior can devastate children's wellbeing in multiple ways. David and Ruth examine how coercive control by perpetrators can rob children of vital resources including economic stability, healthcare, education, family connections, and safety. They discuss how these patterns intersect with systemic oppression and vulnerabilities, creating additional layers of harm that perpetrators exploit. The conversation highlights how a coercive control framework helps professionals better assess perpetrators' harmful parenting choices, understand survivors' protective efforts, and make more informed decisions about child safety. The hosts emphasize the importance of documenting specific harms to children and challenging perpetrators who use culture or religion to justify control. They emphasize that the costs of not addressing these issues - in terms of children's wellbeing and broader societal impact - are too high to ignore. Related Episodes Season 2 Episode 12: How Coercive Control Harms Child Safety & Wellbeing: An Interview With Researcher Dr. Emma Katz Season 2 Episode 10: Trauma-Informed Is Not The Same As Domestic Violence-Informed: A Conversation About The Intersection Of Domestic Violence Perpetration, Mental Health & Addiction Season 1 Episode 1: Coercive Control And Consent Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 6 Episode 1: "Just Leave": Examining Displacement-Based Responses to Domestic Violence 35:53

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Send us a text In this thought-provoking first episode of 2025, David and Ruth explore how displacement-based responses to domestic violence reflect and reinforce gender double standards while often creating additional vulnerabilities for survivors and their children. Recording from the Azores, they examine how the expectation that victims must leave their homes to find safety places unfair burdens on survivors while failing to hold perpetrators accountable. Key discussion points include: How displacement-based responses arose historically when women had limited legal and economic rights Why forcing survivors to leave their homes, financial assets, and support networks creates new vulnerabilities How displacement can enable post-separation coercive control and increase risks to children The limitations of defining "safety" only in terms of immediate physical danger or lethality Why systems need to expand their definition of safety to include stability, wellbeing, and survivor autonomy How child protection and other systems can inadvertently punish survivors who don't leave while failing to hold perpetrators accountable for creating unsafe conditions David and Ruth discuss concrete ways to move beyond displacement-based practices, including: Centering survivor choice, autonomy and definitions of safety/wellbeing Holding perpetrators accountable for how their behavior disrupts family stability Creating a fuller range of intervention options beyond emergency shelter Reframing "failure to protect" to focus on perpetrators' choices that endanger children Check out these related episodes Season 5 Episode 12: Challenging the Gospel of Sacrifice: Faith, Domestic Abuse, and Institutional Transformation Season 5 Episode 9: Partnering vs. Practicing: The Hidden Bias in Professional Crisis Work Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5 Episode 13: Coercive Control & Children Conference Podcast: The Role of Language in Global Responses to Domestic Abuse 42:08

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Send us a text What if understanding power dynamics could transform the way we approach domestic abuse and trauma? Join us for this special live recording of the "Partner with a Survivor" podcast, where we invite you to explore the delicate intricacies of relationships alongside hosts David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo from the Safe and Together Institute. Ruth, known for her "Cranky Survivor" persona, opens up about how this unique character serves as both a personal expression and a strategic response to the challenges faced by victim survivors when dealing with institutional behaviors & professional biases. Together, we navigate the critical importance of embracing survivor feedback—anger and all—while we unravel the deeply ingrained social and gender biases within professional practices. Dive into the heart of coercive control and break down the complex layers of what is called "mutualized" violence, which we call 'acts of resistance' to a perpetrator's coercion & harm. Our conversation challenges the status quo by examining who truly holds power and control in relationships, especially in contexts riddled with bias against marginalized women. We don't shy away from the difficult but necessary task of confronting systemic issues and weaponized responses to survivor anger, urging professionals to recognize anger as a healthy and natural response to boundary violations. In this episode, we champion the importance of safe environments for survivors to express their emotions and set boundaries, particularly in the face of systemic challenges. As we wrap up, we shift our focus to the evolving language within the Safe and Together framework. By moving away from North American-centric jargon, we aim to align with global conversations and maintain core principles through adaptable language. The episode concludes with a discussion on fostering healthy professional relationships, emphasizing collaboration across genders to ensure child and community safety. Reflect with us on how these insights can be applied in your own life, and help us continue our mission by sharing your feedback and suggestions for future topics. Listen to prior episodes about professionals, victim blaming, acts of resistance & power dynamics: https://safeandtogethe Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5 Episode 12: Challenging the Gospel of Sacrifice: Faith, Domestic Abuse, and Institutional Transformation 57:31

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Send us a text What if the institutions we turn to for solace are also be the ones trapping us in cycles of harm? That's the challenging reality we confront in our latest episode featuring Reverend Geneece Goertzen, affectionately known as Rev. Gen. A survivor of domestic violence herself, Rev. Gen brings a deeply personal perspective to the table, sharing insights from her book "Taking it Seriously: A Faith Leader's Guide to Domestic Violence." Her story is not just one of survival but also of transformation, as she navigates the complex role of religious institutions in both supporting and, at times, failing their communities. The episode takes a hard look at the concept of institutional betrayal within faith communities. Often, religious institutions prioritize their preservation over the well-being of individuals, inadvertently perpetuating abuse. We explore the cultural dynamics that contribute to this betrayal and the severe impact it has on survivors' mental health and faith. By addressing these systemic issues, we aim to uncover how these institutions can evolve to offer genuine support and protection to those in need, rather than acting as barriers to justice and healing. Finally, Ruth, David and Rev. Gen discuss how to challenge traditional gender roles and societal norms that can exacerbate domestic violence. Together we explore what a new reality might look like: What if these same institutions could shift their focus to how a domestic abuse perpetrators' behaviors threaten their own spiritual health, the spiritual health of the family, and their religious community? Rev. Gen provides practical advice for faith leaders on how they can be allies to victims, highlighting the importance of comprehensive education and the integration of licensed therapists into faith communities. Through this episode, we envision a path toward transformation, where love, acceptance, and support genuinely resonate within religious frameworks. Check out these resources from Rev. Gen Read her book " Taking it Seriously: A Faith Leader's Guide to Domestic Violence. " Vist Rev. Gen's website Check out these related resources Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5 Episode 11: Empowering Children: Healing from Domestic Abuse with Dr. Asha Patel 58:18

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Send us a text Unlock the secrets to supporting children affected by domestic abuse with insights from Dr. Asha Patel, CEO of Innovating Minds. In this episode, we explore innovative approaches like the Healing Together program, which integrates trauma-informed principles, neuroscience, and attachment models to help children manage their emotions. Dr. Patel shares her journey from working with high-profile offenders to founding Innovating Minds, with a mission to provide early support for children often mislabeled as "naughty" and excluded from education. Discover how digital access is pivotal for equitable scalability and the importance of training frontline practitioners to extend the program's reach. We'll shed light on the complex challenges of providing timely support to children exposed to domestic abuse and the critical role of supportive relationships in their healing process. Misconceptions about waiting for the perfect moment to offer help are debunked, and the necessity of multiple pathways to access programs, beyond court orders, is underscored. The conversation also delves into the hurdles marginalized communities face with official systems and highlights the importance of trauma-informed and domestic abuse-informed approaches within mental health services. Explore the profound impact of early intervention and prevention models across the UK, focusing on the integration of the Healing Together program in schools and children's homes. We examine the unique trauma children face when in contact with abusive parents and the potential for misdiagnoses. Understand the importance of recognizing trauma in the context of coercive control, beyond just physical abuse. Finally, we emphasize the power of fostering healing through mindful practices and how resilience and recovery can be significantly enhanced for both child survivors and their caregivers. Learn more about Innovating Minds and the Healing Together programme Related Episodes Season 5 Episode 7: Childhood Domestic Violence Exposure is “Pivotal”: An Interview with Professor Higgins Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5, Episode 10: Beyond Presence: Redefining Responsible Fatherhood in a Domestic Abuse-Informed World 1:03:56

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Send us a text 📝 In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the nuanced intersection of father engagement and domestic abuse-informed practice with Chris Brown, President of the National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI). Our conversation examines how we can thoughtfully promote father involvement while maintaining high standards for men as parents, disrupting gender double standards and keeping the safety and long term wellbeing of children at the center. 🎯 **Key Topics:** • The historical context behind NFI's founding and evolution of fatherhood programs • Examining father absence through a domestic abuse-informed lens • Balancing father engagement with survivor safety and well-being • The importance of holding perpetrators accountable as parents • Building community capacity to support safe, stable father involvement 💭 **Notable Quotes:** "We need to acknowledge fathers as key caregivers while having high expectations for their behavior as parents. Supporting father involvement can't come at the expense of adult and child survivor safety." - David Mandel "When we talk about father absence, we have to look at the whole picture - including how perpetrator patterns of coercive control contribute to family separation." - Ruth Reymundo Mandel ✨ **Key Takeaways:** • The need to integrate domestic abuse screening and safety protocols into fatherhood programs • How gender bias impacts our expectations of fathers vs mothers • The importance of early intervention to develop parenting skills in boys and young men • Strategies for practitioners to engage fathers while partnering with survivors 📚 **Resources Mentioned:** • Safe & Together's Working with Men as Parents training • Multiple Pathways to Harm framework • NFI's fatherhood program resources • Domestic abuse-informed engagement strategies 🔗 **Connect with NFI:** [https://www.fatherhood.org/](https://www.fatherhood.org/) 🔗 **Connect with Safe & Together Institute:** [https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/](https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/) [https://academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/pages/home](https://academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/pages/home) Join us next time as we continue exploring domestic Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5, Episode 9: Partnering vs. Practicing: The Hidden Bias in Professional Crisis Work 52:02

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Send us a text 🔄 Transforming Professional Standards Join us from São Miguel, Azores, Ruth's paternal ancestral home, as we challenge conventional metrics of professionalism and explore how institutional practices, mandates, best practices often reinforce dangerous barriers between professionals and survivors of domestic abuse. We examine what true Partnership looks like when we step beyond traditional professional boundaries. 📊 Measuring What Matters: • Evaluating professional success through survivor partnership outcomes • Identifying KPIs, practices & policies that perpetuate professional bias & poor outcomes • Tracking meaningful engagement and Impact versus procedural compliance, top down best practices not tied to end user experience 🚫 Confronting Professional Bias: • Recognizing when "professionalism" becomes a barrier to authentic connection • Understanding how institutional metrics can reinforce harmful power dynamics • Examining personal and systemic prejudices in professional practice ⚖️ Institutional Accountability: • Creating measurements for authentic survivor engagement • Developing metrics that value survivor voice and choice • Establishing KPIs that promote genuine Partnering 💡 Shifting Professional Culture: • Moving from expert-driven top-down practice to Partnering and end user impact-based practice • Redefining success in professional-survivor relationships • Building institutional, training and policy support for transformative practice 🎯 Action Steps for Change: • Implementing survivor-centered performance metrics • Developing reflection tools for professional bias • Creating accountability systems for authentic partnership Join our global network as we work to transform how professionals engage with survivors and measure success in domestic abuse-informed practice. 🔗 Access our professional development resources at https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/ 📱 Connect with our community of practice at https://academy.safeandtogetherinstitute.com/pages/home?preview=true #ProfessionalismRedefined #SystemsChange #Partnering #Professionalstandards #Bestpractices #SafeAndTogether Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5 Episode 8: The Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident 36:49

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Send us a text In this episode, David & Ruth speak about the Myth of the Domestic Violence Incident chapter David's recently published book: "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to Transform The Way We Keep Children Safe From Domestic Violence." They discuss how an isolated incident lens: Focuses systems interventions & professional responses on isolated acts of physical violence rather than on patterns of violence & coercive control which blinds professionals and systems to the wider dangers created to adult & child survivors by a perpetrator Makes it harder to see the loss of liberty and entrapment generated by the perpetrator’s pattern Fails to document & address the danger & harm created by nonphysical acts of abuse & removal of liberty (coercive control) such as: ongoing control directed at the adult partner willingness to harm children as a way to pressure and hurt their partner the underlying attitudes and beliefs that entitle Perpetrator to control & violence the manipulations of systems and threats or actual use of systems like family court and child protection to continue fear and control campaigns How the Safe & Together Model helps identify entrapment, loss liberty and impact on child, partner and family functioning to increase the awareness of professionals as to the patterns, trauma & danger created by a perpetrator Related Podcasts: Intro to David Mandel’s book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers” https://safeandtogetherinstitute.com/podcast-interview-social-world/Want to Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child Witness Social World Podcast Interview with David Mandel about his new book “Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers” Want guided book discussions for your staff or community stakeholders? Check out this free book Study guide: https://share.hsforms.com/1 Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5 Episode 7: Childhood Domestic Violence Exposure is “Pivotal”: An interview with Professor Higgins, an Australian Childhood Maltreatment Study (ACMS) chief investigator 1:15:26

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Send us a text The recently published groundbreaking, population-based study of child maltreatment in Australia found exposure to domestic violence is the most common form of maltreatment (39.6%). In this interview with Professor Daryl Higgins, one of the studies’ chief investigators, David and Ruth discuss the domestic violence specific results including how they intersect with other forms of maltreatments and other adverse experiences to produce health and other challenges in adults. Some of the key results discussed include: What was learned about childhood maltreatment, and its connection to health outcomes in adults, in this study of 8500 Australians How domestic violence is present in the 5 most common clusters of overlapping types of maltreatment How men were more likely to report smoking and cannabis use as result of childhood exposure to domestic violence How women were more likely to report self harm, suicide attempts and obesity as a result of childhood exposure of domestic violence How female and gender diverse children were more likely to experience childhood exposure to domestic violence Read about the study: https://www.acms.au Read more about resources and publications from the Institute of Child Protection Studies for adopting a public health approach to protecting children: https://www.acu.edu.au/icps/public-health Other related Partnered with A Survivor episodes Season 5 Episode 5: A Trauma History is Not An Excuse for Acting Abusively Season 5 Episode 4: Unveiling The Impact Of Domestic Violence On Children: Beyond The Myth Of The Child Witness Season 4 Episode 10: Ensuring The Voice Of The Child Is Heard, And Child’s Best Interests Are Considered In Domestic Abuse Cases Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

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Season 5 Episode 6: This Work is Sacred: An interview with Beth Ann Morhardt 1:03:42

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Send us a text Partnering with survivors is a sacred act. Listening to survivors, hearing their stories, and working with them as equals is uplifting for practitioners and their clients. In this episode of Partnered With a Survivor, David and Ruth speak with Beth Ann Morhardt, one of the first domestic violence consultants trained in the Safe & Together Model , about the spiritual aspects of the work with families. The interview starts with discussion of Beth Ann and David's long history of professional collaboration, starting with her work using the Safe & Together Model with child protection. Drawing on those experiences, and her long history of advocating for survivors and working as a Safe & Together Institute faculty member, Beth Ann talks about the how she approaches her work with families as a sacred practice. She also talks about how she honors the experience of practitioners, and even perpetrators as she works to prevent domestic violence. Beth Ann is also the creator of the Sacred in the System (SITS) philosophy & language which aligns with the Safe & Together Model principles of partnering & engaging the perpetrating parent To learn more about Sacred in the System contact Beth Ann at Bamorhardt@gmail.com If you like this episode: Check out our Partnering with Survivors ecourse Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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Season 5 Episode 5: A Trauma History is Not An Excuse for Acting Abusively 38:07

46 weeks ago38:07

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Send us a text In this episode of Partnered with A Survivor, David & Ruth have an intimate discussion about how we can be emotionally & behaviorally responsible even when we have been trained into fear & reactivity through violence & abuse. David and Ruth discuss: How we need to drop binary definitions in order to prevent abusers from using their history of trauma as an excuse for current behaviors of coercive control & violence. The importance of unlearning reactive behaviors that we came by 'honestly' through trauma The importance of considering context, patterns of behavior and impacts on functioning as part of the conversations about survivors' reactivity and use of violence The value of self-reflection on the impact of our behaviors when we are triggered back into a state of fear or defensiveness If you like this episode you may be interested in: Season 5 Episode 2: Women’s Use Of Force In Intimate Relationships: An Interview With Lisa Young Larance Season 3 Episode 7: Understanding And Validating Survivors’ Acts Of Resistance Season 2 Episode 11: “We Need A Revolution:” Integration Of Trauma Healing And Behavior Change For People Who Choose Violence Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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Season 5 Episode 4: Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child Witness 51:19

50 weeks ago51:19

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Send us a text Discover the hard truths about the impact of domestic violence on children, as we, David and Ruth Reymundo Mandel, discuss the "Myth of the Child Witness" chapter from David's book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." We promise you'll come away with a deeper understanding and a sense of urgency to shift the way society responds to young survivors. Listen as we pull back the curtain on the often-invisible effects of witnessing abuse and how these experiences shape the lives of children far beyond what is visible to the eye. Are children just passive bystanders in the face of domestic violence, or are they silent bearers of trauma? What happens when we do not name the perpetrator as the cause of the children's harm or highlight their responsibilities are carers? Our discussions traverse the landscape of this misconception, challenging the passive language that labels children merely as witnesses and advocating for a language that reflects their true experiences. We address the crucial need for systems to hold perpetrators accountable and prevent children from replicating harmful behaviors. Our conversation makes the case for recognizing the autonomy of children and the essential role of the non-abusive parent in fostering a child's emotional safety. Wrapping up our insightful conversation, we underscore the critical role adults play in understanding and supporting children affected by domestic violence. Delving into the 'Safe Together' model, we stress the importance of an ecosystem that supports both the child and the non-abusive parent. Join us as we honor the resilience of children everywhere and strive to transform the dialogue around domestic violence, one listener at a time. Join us in-person or online 18-20 March 2025 for the Safe & Together Institute Coercive Control and Children Conference. The event includes a family law track featuring judicial leadership, survivors and lawyers. Whether in Australia or across the globe, you will gain 12 month access to recordings of every session. Register now! Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual practice tool for improving assessment, intervention, and outcomes through a perpetrator pattern-based approach. The tool allows practitioners to apply the Model’s critical concepts and principles to their current case load in real Check out David Mandel's new book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence." Visit the Safe & Together Institute website Start taking Safe & Together Institute courses Check out Safe & Together Institute upcoming events…

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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Season 5 Episode 3: An Introduction to the David Mandel's Book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence" 47:11

1 year ago47:11