Sensitive Sammy

The Ten Thousand Things

1. Socialising 2. 'Am I expanding or contracting?' 3. Highly sensitive persons -HSP

Where did all the house parties go? Did we grow up? Did we get sick of it? What about dinner parties?

Is Joe not getting invited to dinner parties? Do they actually happen? Are people afraid their space or their entertaining won't be good enough? Are we all just hellishly busy with whatever?

Sam's Attention Deficit Disorder gets in the way of organising get togethers, that's for sure.

But what do we actually want from socialising and partying? Is dancing the best part? Should we just cut straight to that? No Lights No Lycra, no alcohol, no small talk needed, just dancing in the morning in the dark. It's good.

Why do I find something that's good for me, and love it, and plan on doing it again, only to not do it again? Why do I talk myself out of good things?

Why wait? Don't die wondering. Show up for the good things. The best things in life are on the other side of blocks.

I'm just getting FOMO about things that don't exist.

We procrastinate things we have to do. But way sadder than that is procrastinating things you actually want to do.

"1) Living in the same place as the people you love matters. I probably have 10X the time left with the people who live in my city as I do with the people who live somewhere else.

2) Priorities matter. Your remaining face time with any person depends largely on where that person falls on your list of life priorities. Make sure this list is set by you—not by unconscious inertia.

3) Quality time matters. If you’re in your last 10% of time with someone you love, keep that fact in the front of your mind when you’re with them and treat that time as what it actually is: precious."

2. Note to self - contract or expanding

Not expanding the ego, but expanding your consciousness until it blends with everything and you're not in the way of yourself anymore.

Loch Kelly mindfulness

Is this actually a problem, or do I just think it's a problem?

3. Highly sensitive persons - more on HSP from Psychology Today

Sensitivity can come from childhood experiences, or a genuine threat to our belonging, status, certainty and so on. Sometimes we need to get over ourselves. I couldn't tell the difference between ribbing and hostility. But a well-aimed joke at our expense can also show that we belong in a group. So making fun of ourselves and others is very helpful. And so is biting the dust in life, often enough to learn that we can recover.

Speaking of consciousness expansion, once upon a time I watched Ridley Scott's Aliens and suddenly had a mind-blowing experience of seeing the beauty and wonder of the universe contained in another person, only to realise it was the same universe in all of us, and we are all one! Then back to the movie. No drugs involved.

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• Sam Ellis - Host

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