064 Open Relating with Roy Graff

The Sexual Alchemy Podcast

Today's guest, Roy Graff, brings an invitation to reflect and rethink how we approach our romantic and sexual connections. Roy offers coaching and mentors individuals, couples, and polycules to enjoy conscious relationships, openness, honesty and intimacy. He runs a non-monogamous men's support group in London and moderates several Facebook groups on sex positivity and polyamory. Roy approaches his work from a non-violent communication style based on his Wheel of Consent training and Radical Honesty.

We had a conversation about monogamous and non-monogamous relationships and their different nuances, insecurities, jealousy triggered by trauma responses, and what he calls the "monogamyths." We also touch on social judgment toward open relationships and polyamory, non-monogamous relationships and toxic masculinity, rules and boundaries.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What polyamory is and the differences between all the non-monogamous relationships

- The role of insecurities in how we establish our romantic and sexual relationships

- How listening to our bodies can help us discover what kind of relationship suits us

- Why we must learn to differentiate autonomy and agency in polyamorous relationships

- The difference between boundaries and rules and how to use them to protect ourselves and our partners

Roy discovered himself polyamorous after 20 years of being unconsciously monogamous by default. Once introduced to consensual non-monogamy, he never looked back, and since then, he has experienced a wide variety of relationship dynamics in the scope of multigamy. Roy is on a mission to create open and conscious communications and empower people to build autonomous, connected, interdependent relationships.

Resources:

- Open Relating: https://openrelating.love/

- Open Relating Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/openrelating/

- Men's Pan-Relationships Discussion Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/londonmenspanrelationships/

- Sex Geekdom London: https://www.facebook.com/groups/SexGeekdomLondon

- London Polyamory: https://www.facebook.com/groups/londonpoly

- Check out my FREE Training, Reclaiming Your Intuitive, Confident, and Sensual Self https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-training

- Book: Rebecca Lowrie - The Sexual Alchemy Journal for Men: 6 Weeks to Discovering and Embracing Your Full Sexual Self: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop/p/sexualalchemyjournalformen

- The Sexual Mastery Activation Cards for Men https://www.sexualalchemy.com/shop

- Sign up for bi-weekly(ish) Love Letters straight to your inbox https://self-alchemy.activehosted.com/f/11

- Free resources: https://www.sexualalchemy.com/free-resources/

- My book "101 Meditations for Life, Business and Bedroom Success" https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-Life-Business-Bedroom-Success/dp/0993207626/

- My website https://www.sexualalchemy.com/

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