Ep. 166 - Is Arguing Bad In Marriage?

The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast

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Is arguing in marriage a sign of trouble—or can it actually be healthy? In this episode, we’re unpacking the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict. If arguing simply means disagreeing, then no, it’s not bad! In fact, it’s a normal and necessary part of a strong relationship. But if your disagreements are filled with blame, criticism, and judgment—leading to more disconnection than resolution—then yes, arguing can be harmful.
Tune in to learn:
✅ The key differences between healthy and unhealthy arguing
✅ Signs your disagreements are strengthening or straining your marriage
✅ Simple shifts to make conflict more productive and less damaging
By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away with a fresh perspective on disagreements and practical tips to navigate them in a way that brings you and your spouse closer together
Check out my Conflict To Connection Guide to start feeling more confident with how you approach conflict. Grab it here!
Thank you for listening!
If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!
If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!
Additional Resources:

Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage? Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
Wanna stop feeling like roommates and bring back the romance and excitement in your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Ep. 166 - Is Arguing Bad In Marriage?

The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast

published about a year ago

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Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!

Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage? Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
Wanna stop feeling like roommates and bring back the romance and excitement in your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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