EP.83 - Doreen Chin - "We Don't Have To Accept: That's Just The Way It Is."

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In this episode, we welcome back Doreen, who previously joined us in Episode 17. During her first appearance, Doreen shared her experiences as a first-generation Canadian navigating body image, diet culture, and finding self-love in her 40s. Today, we’re thrilled to have her back to talk about what has been on our minds lately.
Episode Highlights
Life in Your 40s:
Doreen reflects on turning 40 and how her views on body image and self-love have evolved.
"When you keep coming up against your own body being your enemy, it just takes the wind out of your sails."
We discuss the impact of hormones, managing guilt and shame from childhood, and finding joy.
Struggles for Women to Support Each Other:
Challenges women face in supporting each other, influenced by societal and historical factors.
"People are uncomfortable with other people’s discomfort."
We explore fostering stronger community bonds and mutual support among women, especially those from marginalized groups.
White Academia:
Doreen's journey of applying to graduate programs as a BIPOC individual.
Systemic barriers like being told she is not diverse enough.
Doreen shares why it is important for her to continue trying to get into her graduate program: "I'm going to do it because you don’t think I can." For her, it’s more than framing a degree on a wall; it’s about using her voice for immigrant families who are accessing the mental health system.
Strategies for breaking down systemic oppression.
Mental Health and Therapy:
The importance of mental health in our 40s, including therapy and finding a racialized therapist.
"It is hard to shake off decades of internalized messages."
Receiving therapy from a professional who shares relatable experiences provides culturally sensitive and supportive care, helping clients navigate and address the unique challenges of racism and cultural identity.
The impact of systemic oppression on friendships.
Relationships and Fertility:
Following up on Doreen's previous struggles with fertility and its impact on mental and physical health.
"This is not my fault."
"I've been afraid to speak up most of my life," but now embracing her voice and encouraging others to "get over that hump and just talk about it."
Join us as we dive into this inspiring story of resilience and growth faced by women in their 40's, particularly those from marginalized communities. Empowering and enlightening, this episode, offers valuable perspectives and a call to continue learning and supporting one another.

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