The Power of Positivity: Essential Strategies to Love Your Life with Dr. Elia Gourgouris

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Do you want to feel happier, even while facing challenges? In this episode, Matt O’Neill sits down with world-renowned happiness expert Dr. Elia Gourgouris who shares research-backed strategies for cultivating more joy even when facing adversity.

From increasing self-care and gratitude to identifying your challenge-response style and eliminating toxic influences, Elia offers simple habits you can implement today. Happiness is a choice - let Matt and Elia help you make the happy choice today.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

• Self-care is non-negotiable for happiness

• Four personality types for navigating challenges: victim, critic, bystander, navigator

• Recognizing fear-based decision making and avoiding major choices during that time

[04:04] Self-care and Gratitude

Elia discusses the importance of non-negotiable daily self-care like walking for an hour. When the pandemic hit, he increased this to walking every day while leaving his phone behind half the time. This allowed him to focus on nature and doing "gratitude walks." He found that cultivating gratitude through appreciating the beauty around him helped release feel-good neurotransmitters that lifted his mood. Elia emphasizes gratitude can be practiced even in difficult times and is key to overcoming challenges with hope and optimism.

[11:36] Four Personality Types for Navigating Challenges

Elia outlines the four typical personality types people take on when facing adversity:

• The victim - sees themselves as the only one affected

• The critic - blames others

• The bystander - feels overwhelmed and paralyzed

• The navigator - maintains a positive outlook and adapts well

He notes we all have aspects of each within us at different times. The key is to pivot from the first three reactive types into the navigator mindset of learning from challenges rather than seeing them as roadblocks. Taking the navigator approach allows one to come through difficulties in a fulfilling, growth-oriented way.

[16:56] The Fear Camp vs. The Faith Camp

Elia discusses how in life there are two camps we operate from - the fear camp and the faith camp. He notes that all of our emotions stem from one of these two camps. Sometimes we fluctuate between operating from fear or faith based on life circumstances. However, it's important not to make any major decisions when in a state of fear. Staying rooted in faith even during challenges is key to navigating difficulties in a positive, growth-oriented way

[19:49] Setting Boundaries Through Honest Communication in Toxic Relationships

Elia discusses how to eliminate toxic relationships through "HOT" conversations - honest, open, and transparent discussions. These should be handled with care, love, and understanding rather than aggression. Elia emphasizes self-care requires surrounding oneself with supportive people and it's important to set boundaries with toxic individuals for one's own well-being, while still showing empathy. If they are unwilling to change behaviors, keeping them at a distance is acceptable.

Resources Mentioned:

www.dreliagourgouris.com

www.linkedin.com/in/thehappinessdoctor

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About the Guest

Dr. Elia Gourgouris is the Founder of The Happiness Center - an organization of world leading experts in the field of Positive Psychology dedicated to creating personal success and happiness.