Love by Design with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh | Szn. 2 Ep. 4

Pleasure Project: Sex and Relationships

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is a globally renowned author, speaker and thinking partner. Her third book Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love is the result of her two-decade-long research on the status of thriving relationships and its key ingredients, namely: attraction, respect, trust, shared vision, compassion, and loving behaviors. Dr. Nasserzadeh whose work has been featured on NPR, the BBC, ABC, CNN, and USA Today, is based in Los Angeles, CA, and travels widely.

In this episode Dr. Jenn and Dr. Sara discuss her new book at length. Dr. Sara says, “Love is a job with no job description.” She reflects the challenges couples face as they try to navigate the myriad roles they are expected to play for one another. She then articulates the pitfalls of romantic love and introduces her model of Emergent Love as an alternative approach for longer term, lasting love.

The key tenets of Emergent Love include: Attraction: Recognizing the evolving roles and attributes you find appealing in your partner. Respect: Having high regard for your partner and keeping their needs and priorities in mind. Trust: Believing that your partner will show up for you consistently and in the ways that matter to you and you do the same for them. Shared Vision: Making a commitment to go somewhere or build something together with shared priorities. Compassion: The capacity to show up fully for your partner without making it about yourself. Loving Behaviors: Manifesting love through specific, exclusive, and tender actions toward your partner. Making each other feel special.

Dr. Sara also offers the Platinum Rule: Do to others what they want done to them—which means be a generous and considerate lover and spouse. Tune in for this thoughtful and winding discussion about long term partnerships. You can find Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh at: Instagram:@dr.saranasserzadeh Website (You can join her newsletter for more resources here: https://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/ YouTube: @dr Sara Nasserzadeh Dr. Sara also designed a relationship assessment for couples. Access it here: Relationship Panoramic Inventory #podcast #love #book #pleasureprojectpodcast #drjennkennedy #therapy #couplescounseling #therapy #couplestherapy #romance #partnership #longtermrelationship #pleasureproject #interview