Ep 176 – What to do when you care too much as a leader

Influence & Impact for female leaders

This episode was prompted by a request from one of the members of my Women Leading community who asked how she could build more personal resilience around the impact of decisions she was making at work and be a little more “Teflon coated”.

Perhaps you relate – you need to make tough decisions as a leader but you take things to heart, you care about people and their wellbeing and sometimes the decisions you make can have significant impact on others.

Or perhaps you are the person who is implementing the decisions that others have made and cascading unwelcome news or making unpopular changes. You may be involved in a restructure for example or taking a team member through performance management.

Now, I didn’t want to call this ‘how to care less as a leader’ because I don’t think that those of us who care a lot would embrace the idea of caring less. Caring, having empathy, being conscious of the impact of our decisions on people - these are all wonderful traits for a leader to have and may well be a huge strength of yours as a leader.

However, if caring has no boundaries around it then you could be heading towards sleepless nights, self-doubt and possibly even burnout.

In this episode I’m going to explore 3 insights and 3 tools and techniques to help you if you are someone who cares too much as a leader.

My name’s Carla Miller, leadership coach, author and trainer. And this is the Influence & Impact podcast for women leaders, helping you confidently navigate the ups and downs of leadership and feel less alone on your journey as a leader. In fortnightly episodes I share practical tools and insights from myself and my brilliant guests that will help you succeed in your career.

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