On being timid-胆小无自性

Robot Monk Xian'er

On being timid

Cowardice is caused by illusions anddelusions in one’s heart, just as the saying goes “the ghost inside your mindis what scares you.” One is seriously troubled by delusions when there is alack of wisdom and merit, which weakens the light of the heart. “Those withmerit have a peaceful mind, those with wisdom have no fear.” One shouldexercise filial piety and do good deeds more often to accumulate merits, tolearn and think more to gain wisdom. Stay away from situations that easilytrigger delusions.

Those who are fearful and have lowself-esteem are always worried about being hurt by others, because they are notstrong enough inside. Avoidance is no way out. Instead, one needs to gain innerstrength. Everyone has the power of light within, which awaits to be discoveredand brought out. To actively give, instead of passively waiting for others tosmile to you.

Even innate cowardice has no intrinsicnature, so we should never believe that it cannot be changed. Start breakingthrough from this moment, plant the karmic seed of change, even it is onlyactively making a phone call or sending a message to someone.

If we have no direction in life and lackaspirations, we will easily become dependent on the environment, judgingoneself with the opinions of others, and constantly chasing after the external,which is how a sensitive and vulnerable character is created. This is a viciouscycle. If we keep on living in the opinion of others, we will become more andmore lost, and have a stronger need for outside approval, which will make usincreasingly fearful of failures. We need to stop this vicious cycle bychanging the direction of our heart from the roots, look inside and askourselves, find out what we want to do. Then, study dharma, learn the way tocultivate our body and soul, bring out our inner wisdom, and let our heartsgradually be filled with light and strength.

胆小无自性

胆小，是因为内心中的幻想、妄想，如俗话说“疑神疑鬼”。妄想重，是因为福慧不足，内心光明微弱。“福厚者心安，有智者无畏。”要多孝敬、行善以积福，

多学习、思考以开慧。远离容易引发妄想的境界。

胆小自卑的人，自己内心的力量不够强，所以总害怕别人伤害自己。解决之道不是躲避，而是增长自己的心力。人人内心中都有光明的力量，要去发现它，开启它。主动去付出，而非被动等待他人微笑。

天生的胆小也是无自性的，不要认为它不可改变。从现在开始突破自己，种改变的因，哪怕主动给人打一个电话、发一条信息都是进步。对自己的生命没有方向，内心缺乏愿力，就会不由自主地依赖外境，把别人的评价当作自己成败的标准，心一直向外去追逐、攀求，就形成了敏感脆弱的性格。这也是一个恶性循环。一直活在别人的眼光里，自己就越来越迷失，更加渴望外在的肯定，也就越发害怕失败。要停止这个恶性循环，就要从根源上改变心的方向，向内看，问自己，找到自己想做的事情。然后要学习善法，明了身心的标准，开发智慧，慢慢让自己内心被光明充实。