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The tension is building and the situation is starting to escalate from bad to worse. We’ve all been there, haven’t we? As easy as it is to join our teens in this escalation, they need us to be regulated and available in order to de-escalate. Opening up the conversation helps us create a deeper connection and enables both sides to open up a bit more about what’s going on and their perspective on the situation.
“If you have somebody in front of you who is completely dysregulated, you are gonna want to stay regulated as much as you possibly can.”
- Beth Hillman
Let’s dive into how to do this in today’s episode!
In this episode on how to de-escalate your teen, we discuss:
- The three brain states we experience: the survival state, emotional state, and cognitive state;
- How to de-escalate your teen when they’re reacting from their survival state;
- How you can help your teen when the situation is escalating;
- Pro-actively de-escalating situations;
- How you can enable a deeper connection with your teen and get a better understanding of their perspective;
- Guiding your teen to become an independent adult;
- And more!
If you’d like to connect, you can find me on Instagram (@bethhillmancoaching) or go to my website www.bethhillmancoaching.com. And if you’re interested in working with me, you can learn more about my private coaching here or my group coaching here.
And remember parents, the change begins with us.
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